Heather Coleman, LCSW, is an ACoA therapist in New York City.  In working with ACOA issues, Heather helps clients uncover internal resources of agency, safety, creativity, insight/awareness so that clients can thrive in their lives. She uses present-moment awareness, mindfulness, visualization and body-based techniques to access clients’ strengths and wisdom.

In addition, Heather provides neurofeedback in conjunction with therapy to re-regulate the stressed, dysregulated nervous system: essential for the ACoA to use in recovering their healthy sense of self, safety, and resourcefulness.

ACoA Blogs:

Written by NYC Therapist Heather Coleman:

How to be Accountable in our Lives

Heather discusses putting yourself in the driver’s seat of your life and taking accountability for how you would like your like to look:  she speaks of being aware of personal thoughts, feelings and values that can pave the way. Read more


Dysfunctional Families and 4 Ways to Increase Intimacy

Heather talks about four ways to increase closeness in relationship as an ACoA: Self-parenting and self-love, trying a new way of relating that’s unfamiliar, assessing relationship dynamics you’re already in, and joining a loving community. Read more


ACoA and Mindful Parenting Tips: Growing Up in Dysfunctional Families

Becoming a parent can be an incredible process for an ACoA (and others from dysfunctional systems) in growing into the capable parent they’d like to become while also offering themselves healing and re-parenting.  Heather discusses the book Unwelcome Inheritance, finding new role models for parenting, setting up structure and taking care of ourselves along the way in the parenthood journey. Read more


Complex Trauma Recovery: You Can Find Safety Again

Heather speaks about working with Complex Trauma in therapy (often the case that ACoAs experienced developmental and other traumas) by aligning with safety, healing the inner wounded child and re-regulating a dysregulated nervous system.


4 Important Steps in Holistic Addiction Treatment

Heather outlines the basics in addiction recovery, including refraining from the substance and then simplifying lifestyle choices to stabilize, re-regulating the dysregulated nervous system, identifying and working with underlying traumas and pain, and then turning towards finding meaning with a new sober identity.


2 Drug-Free Ways to Decrease Anxiety in Addiction

Often times, when entering recover, ACoAs and addicts may find that their feelings bubble up and are in need of a new way of attending to them.  There are holistic ways that can offer a gentler container to cope with anxious, angry and sad feelings arising while in recovery.


Other Helpful ACoA Blogs:

Guess What Normal Is: guesswhatnormalis.com

The Kind Self-Healing Project: www.kindselfhealing.com

Dr. Tian Dayton, Transform Your Inner World: www.tiandayton.com

Jody Lamb on Adult Children of Alcoholics: www.jodylamb.com

Change of Air- Great ACoA resource, especially for women in the Los Angeles area: changeofair.com


ACoA Book Recommendations:

After the Tears by Jane Middelton-Moz & Lorie Dwinell: view book on goodreads.com

Adult Children of Alcholics by Dr. Jan Woititz: view book on amazon.com

Unwelcome Inheritance by Joy Woititz (on parenting as an ACoA): www.amazon.com/Unwelcome-Inheritance-Familys-Addictive-Behaviors/dp/1616495901

Emotional Sobriety: From Relational Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Dr. Tian Dayton: View book on amazon.com

The Body Keeps the Score (general trauma) by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

Waking the Tiger–Healing Trauma (general trauma) by Peter Levine


Support Groups:

ACoA Support Group with Heather Coleman, LCSW

ACA Groups