Heather Coleman, LCSW, is an ACoA therapist in New York City. In working with ACOA issues, Heather helps clients uncover internal resources of agency, safety, creativity, insight/awareness so that clients can thrive in their lives. She uses present-moment awareness, mindfulness, visualization and body-based techniques to access clients’ strengths and wisdom.
In addition, Heather provides neurofeedback in conjunction with therapy to re-regulate the stressed, dysregulated nervous system: essential for the ACoA to use in recovering their healthy sense of self, safety, and resourcefulness.
Written by NYC Therapist Heather Coleman:
Heather discusses putting yourself in the driver’s seat of your life and taking accountability for how you would like your like to look: she speaks of being aware of personal thoughts, feelings and values that can pave the way. Read more
Heather talks about four ways to increase closeness in relationship as an ACoA: Self-parenting and self-love, trying a new way of relating that’s unfamiliar, assessing relationship dynamics you’re already in, and joining a loving community. Read more
Becoming a parent can be an incredible process for an ACoA (and others from dysfunctional systems) in growing into the capable parent they’d like to become while also offering themselves healing and re-parenting. Heather discusses the book Unwelcome Inheritance, finding new role models for parenting, setting up structure and taking care of ourselves along the way in the parenthood journey. Read more
Heather speaks about working with Complex Trauma in therapy (often the case that ACoAs experienced developmental and other traumas) by aligning with safety, healing the inner wounded child and re-regulating a dysregulated nervous system.
Heather outlines the basics in addiction recovery, including refraining from the substance and then simplifying lifestyle choices to stabilize, re-regulating the dysregulated nervous system, identifying and working with underlying traumas and pain, and then turning towards finding meaning with a new sober identity.
Often times, when entering recover, ACoAs and addicts may find that their feelings bubble up and are in need of a new way of attending to them. Both meditation and neurofeedback can offer a gentler container to cope with anxious, angry and sad feelings arising while in recovery.
Other Helpful ACoA Blogs:
Guess What Normal Is– http://guesswhatnormalis.com/about/
The Kind Self-Healing Project– http://www.kindselfhealing.com/coaching
Dr. Tian Dayton, Transform Your Inner World– https://www.tiandayton.com
Jody Lamb on Adult Children of Alcoholics– http://www.jodylamb.com/blog/
Change of Air- Great ACoA resource, especially for women in the LA area- http://changeofair.com/about/
ACoA Book Recommendations:
After the Tears by Jane Middelton-Moz & Lorie Dwinell–https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7977284-after-the-tears
Adult Children of Alcholics by Dr. Jan Woititz– https://www.amazon.com/Struggle-Intimacy-Adult-Children-Alcoholics/dp/0932194257
Unwelcome Inheritance by Joy Woititz (on parenting as an ACoA)–https://www.amazon.com/Unwelcome-Inheritance-Familys-Addictive-Behaviors/dp/1616495901
Emotional Sobriety: From Relational Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Dr. Tian Dayton–https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=tian+dayton
The Body Keeps the Score (general trauma) by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk
Waking the Tiger–Healing Trauma (general trauma) by Peter Levine
ACoA Support Group with Heather Coleman, LCSW